I vaguely remember the title of this film. It was “Looking for Mr.Goodbar”, starring Diane Keaton, if I recall correctly. Another neurotic, desperate, dependent, insecure, American “woman”, looking for love in all the wrong places... An emotional survival story. I've read a lot of your so-called emotional survival stories... Your dog dies, and you seek emotional survival by either sleeping with the first pretender or you are stuck in therapy for another 5 years. You lose your job and there you go, acting out, fucking around as if there is no tomorrow... You grandparent or parent dies and ditto, you recourse to the same... Your twin towers collapse and ditto again – you have been in therapy ever since. Your therapist is very understanding, after all you pay him/her over 200 dollars an hour and she/he pats you on the back and tells you it’s ok, it’s nothing but a phase of grief...don’t punish yourself, you are just trying to heal... How very touching indeed. You the puritanical, hall
I was a 'mantrap', by the way. Not quite planned, but since I ended up being conceived, I became a tool. My 'incubator' did that three times. Get preggers and get the support of a responsible host; the abusive bitch. She moved up in the world. First one a Montenegran born soldier for the U.S. in the Vietnam war, second was a dentist, third an Air Force dude on the edge of being promoted to Lieuteneat Colonel. A dude of Kraut ancestry, so the Nazi twat plug considered him a catch.
I walked out on her, and I wasn't too nice to her in my literary or musical art. (A college radio station has our obscure CD, and they did play 'Momma Was A Psycho Bitch From Hell' a couple of times.) I cut off all contact 17 years ago, and my vengeance shall never cease.
Thanks for this blog - it's a subject very close to my heart, and, God, don't innocent Iraqi children know much about this ...
Parenthood is a gift, and a huge and lifelong commitment. All the degrees and diplomas in the world cannot compensate if one is a failure with bringing up children one CHOSE to bring into this world. My heart aches for Iraqi parents, because what's happening to children in Iraq is NOT their doing or their choice. Damn the occupiers. I think we've seen the results of THEIR parenting on Iraqi streets, haven't we? Savages, barbarians,rapists and abusers and, right, with the chronological age of twelve - or younger.
I am happy you understood what this post is all about. Means you have been there, and chose to become an orphan since your parent did not become a parent. Thank you for commenting.
Hello Little Deer,
You are absolutely right, Iraqi children and parents have NO CHOICE. My post really had a double message. One is the difficulty of becoming a good parent and the second is losing one, however imperfect that parent is. And of course the psychodynamic consequences on the child. Really basic stuff.
Hello Captain...Hope it will help you in your sailing expedition or when you throw the anchor in.
I am not advising Arabs in particular. I am just pointing out the cumulative effects on orphaned kids and in particular those under occupation. Your comment about Demography being the ONLY weapon against Western hegemony, comes across as some CRASS reversed Malthusian logic. Grow up !
I wish you safe travels, dear Layla.
It seems to me that "mistakes" in haircutting do NO permanent damage or harm to anyone, whereas, "mistakes" in childbearing are, of course, permanent, longlasting, devestating, profound.
But, NO societal requirements, prerequisites, qualifications, assistance in the area of childbearing provided or necessary. Don't you think something is very wrong in emphasis on this scale of social values?
Bless the children....
Hello and nice to "see" you here.
Yes I agree there are many ways a child can be orphaned but for me the ultimate is when a child is orphaned under a ruthless occupation. There are 5 MILLION Iraqi orphans today courtesy of the USA, GB, Iran, Israel and the indifference of the Rest of the world...
How many times can one be abandoned ?????
Hello and thank you for your kind comment. As I said to JP above, 5 million Iraqi orphans !
Good comment. And who will teach America and the coalition of the willing to stop killing innocent kids ?
lol. Will you ever reproduce ?
I will in due time, but meanwhile why don't you write your own manifesto seeing that you represent the people and are sooooo angry ?
Nice comment. But what if whole villages have been erased as well ???
I think about Rawanda, Dubai, Iraq, Afghanistan...
I can't answer....I can just pray for all of the orphans and all of the villages in all of the countries. If I could adopt them all and bring them to Canada I would but children and their families deserve to feel safe in their own homes, country and culture. The West has sadly done little to improve conditions for children and women of the world.
I welcome any suggestions on how to help...