Endless Beginnings...
For God's sake, tell me where to begin? I was set out to write about Father's day and the thousands of fatherless Iraqi children.The thousands of killed fathers, the thousands of fathers trying desperately hard to feed their families, daily putting their lives at great risk, in a country gripped by demonic violence. The exiled fathers, selling scraps in Amman and Damascus, bearing the brunt of daily insults. Or the unemployed fathers, feeling torn inside watching their kids go hungry. Or maybe the head bent down father, slouched posture, hiding scars beneath a worn out shirt. The father that has been imprisoned, humiliated, tortured and sodomized, unable to look his children in the eyes... Or maybe I should write about sexual torture and sodomy instead... The further horrors emerging from Abu Ghraib and the Taguba report... More reports of "abuse". And I am sure Abu Ghraib is not over. I am certain that more Abu Ghraibs are taking place in Iraq, in those shadowy deten...
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Now, on to the subject - you have, very correctly, stated that what you've written (particularly about the shoe polisher!!) is applicable to a greater or lesser extent to men who originate from patriarchal societies. I think this really means the entire Eastern region - granted that there will be exceptions.
Shoe polishers are seen almost everywhere, very much like their Arab counterparts, being pushed around by the 'slave owner' (she may be gigantic in size or small, generally quite ugly and intellectually dumb because one often tends to think 'what did he see in HER?', but she manages to reduce him to a crawling worm!! I guess he didn't see anything except that he's grateful that she actually looked at him!): he looks after the kids, does the dishes, does the cooking and is at her beck and call. Now, the same man, as you correctly point out, is very different with His Eastern female counterpart. Here, he does the pushing and ordering, and expects nothing but subservience from her, or else ... Double standards, absolutely. And spineless, very correct.
How will this ever change? I guess when Eastern females stand up and say 'enough is enough'.
It's great that you've also pointed out the heavy load that occupied Arab men (Iraqi and Palestinian, in particular) have to contend with, which is a fact. But then, you're also very right about men being socio-politically speaking, impotent. I think that's the root cause and something that they need to desperately work on.
All in all, both pieces are excellent and very much a fact, Layla.
In solidarity.
The whole Arab kind seems schizophrenic to me.
Being insecure and eager for recognition is human, only too human.
Look around. Isn’t it everywhere.
It is not about good woman and bad man or bad woman and good man.
Both man and woman suffer so many forms of abuse daily. There are bad people in this world.
And at the end of it for mankind (both woman and man):
If you allow someone to walk over you, then expect exactly that to happen, even if they do so with there shoes on. Playing the victim reveals the one to blame.
The day the good stand up against the bad is the day the earth makes home for respect.
Isn't that just Layla's and all Arab oppressed females' secret dream, their "House Masters" being mass-castrated ?
We're just making it true !
You left out the part where the Americans are at fault for this.
Dearest Layla, you are simply BRILLIANT - not because you've written about men but because you have managed to convey the message like a painting - using words as brush strokes to build the bigger picture. And the reader goes, 'wow!'. Thank you.
Now, on to the subject - you have, very correctly, stated that what you've written (particularly about the shoe polisher!!) is applicable to a greater or lesser extent to men who originate from patriarchal societies. I think this really means the entire Eastern region - granted that there will be exceptions.
Shoe polishers are seen almost everywhere, very much like their Arab counterparts, being pushed around by the 'slave owner' (she may be gigantic in size or small, generally quite ugly and intellectually dumb because one often tends to think 'what did he see in HER?', but she manages to reduce him to a crawling worm!! I guess he didn't see anything except that he's grateful that she actually looked at him!): he looks after the kids, does the dishes, does the cooking and is at her beck and call. Now, the same man, as you correctly point out, is very different with His Eastern female counterpart. Here, he does the pushing and ordering, and expects nothing but subservience from her, or else ... Double standards, absolutely. And spineless, very correct.
How will this ever change? I guess when Eastern females stand up and say 'enough is enough'.
It's great that you've also pointed out the heavy load that occupied Arab men (Iraqi and Palestinian, in particular) have to contend with, which is a fact. But then, you're also very right about men being socio-politically speaking, impotent. I think that's the root cause and something that they need to desperately work on.
All in all, both pieces are excellent and very much a fact, Layla.
In solidarity.
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little dear this is all well and good but why have u not contributed to the proposed creation of the party in the comments section of "arabia felix in search of herself"
And to lynndie england: Your comments do not surprise me in the least. If there's one thing your kind is 'blessed' with, it's a filthy mouth - which latches on everything in addition to spewing garbage.
Please help me, I can't take anymore of this still, blank, migrainous "present"...
Nice one @ secular Arabo regarding al "netin" al inglezee.lol.
Layla Anwar | 09.26.08 - 5:59 pm | #
Do you know who is al "netin" al inglezaa you and the other mother-fucker humilated at Palestinian Pundit?
He is repected member in RESPECT PART.
HAVE YOU EVER HEARD ABOUT THE PARTY AND ABOUT GALLAWI??
Every Iraqi know who is Gallawi, and how much he suffered because of his Support to Iraqi cause before, during after the Occupation. Fuck you and evey arab woman like you
I ordered You
Layla Anwar and Secular Arab, get married and produce a new Saddam Hussein NOW !
My New Order is:
Get a thick long deformed steel bar, get hear read and shove it up your rotten ass yo Qahba
it's an order
1) Who gave you permission to pass yourself off as someone else and give orders on his/her/their behalf ?
2) Who is "Gallawi" ? Did you mean Galloway, the British orientalist clown who dropped the too stressful Iraqi struggle for the more fashionable Iranian farce ?
3) Shoving long deformed steel bars up each other's assholes is common practice among the mollahs of Qum.
Good afternoon.
Believe it or not, when I wrote this post, the thought of you crossed my mind, and I was convinced that you'd relate one way or another.
So true about the crawling worm and yes you are right, EASTERN women in general, and Arab women in particular, need a change !!!!
Good God, I can write a whole bloody book about the years and years of hearing, seeing, putting up, observing, experiencing...all the snide remarks, the double standards, the injunctions, the doublebinds, the manipulations, the lies, the deceit, the cheatings...Just thinking about it gives me a sinking feeling.
Bless you precious Little Deer.
Bless you.
Are they more schizophrenic that the Americans who according to the latest census, over 85% of Americans believe in God. And look at what murder and crimes they commit on other nations and the whole planet.
And for your info, Women from the Maghreb don't wear a chador. Another ignorant ass, around.
I guess you have missed my point. I am not talking about normal human insecurity and flaccidity of tissues here.
I am talking about the SLAVE MENTALITY and the double standards, a good deal if not all, Arab women are subjected to when it comes to Arab men versus the "white" women.
I suggest you re-read my post.
I agree with you there are good and bad in each gender, I don't doubt that for a minute. But I was not referring to human ethics here and personal morality, I was referring to a cultural, psychological system that is still very felt in the Arab World, but thankfully America and Stinking England have destroyed it, at least on some level in the Arab psyche with their Iraqi "Liberation."
Aren't you the one who got bonked in Abu Ghraib orgasming at the sight of mutilated bodies.
You have always reminded me of Rosemary's baby and the Exorcist.
So what can of Devil did you give birth to and did the crucifix help at all?
How's the game going ?
The political party is still not in the making. Yalla, come and chat to me in 100 years about it.
Migrainous presence ? Please take a couple of panadols, short of committing suicide...My your comment really depresses me, as if I needed that.
How do you know that he has a soft spot for me and how soft is soft ?
And more importantly, Get a life !
Am I supposed to bow in awe now?
lol.
Read what the commenter one and only said, he/she is right on the money.
Besides, your GALLAWI, doubts any Iranian involvement in Iraq. hahahahahahahaha,
Tell you what you little bugger who can't spell, why don't you shove one of those steel ones up yours and up your GALLAWI.
Oh by the way, forgot to ask you --Is that an ALLAWI who just found his G.spot ?
Bless you, too, and with a big hug!
In solidarity.
No panagols, dear...I'll not commit suicide because I fear God, but I'll seek political asylum in the kingdom of madness sooner than accept the fact that Iraq will no longer be the same as before.
I wish you more luck...with all my heart.
and opened his reekin' mouth again.
His mind is like a stinking pantry
and he feels like half a man.
So he swears like a whore to make him happy
and threatens to do harm, only if he can.
But we know that he is an impotent, intellectual baby..
Federer gets hold of a dick, maybe that was his plan.
He met 'lynndie england' and they had a kid...
The freak had a forked tongue and no mind,
No offence,telling the truth we gotta be kind
No American is whole and sane nowadays,
naturally in their culture it's idiocy, that pays.
So Roger and lynndie sent their freak to war
surely, they don't care about their own anymore
Federer's and England's plenty, they're worth a penny
Quality they have none but banality they have a many.
How come only now, shyness or hemorrhoids ?
hahahahahahahahahahahaha
During his final moments, his followers and the Sahaba gathered around to comfort him, and received his final requests.
Then they asked, 'oh Prophet of God, what do you ask of us in these final hours?'
Prophet Mohammed (pbuh) said "I ask you to take care of the women, and treat them with goodness and respect".
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZqgDtdEjEac
He sold himself, and got a good price, while you as someone said, sold youself for $10 per Layla..
How about telling us your Alf Layla wlayla
Haven't you heard... re:castration...
you know how some have called USA the 'Prozac Nation'..
A recent alarming finding was made at Cornell Medical Center in New York & was reported in New Scientist magazine
You may want to book yourself into the November meeting of the American Society for Reproductive Medicine; the full findings are due to be presented there.
In the mean time, you'd want to tell your boyfriend to get off of those antidepresants.
Apparently he's been unwitingly engaging in a form of chemical castration.
Now I know it's tough for some of those Gulf Veterans, but tell him that he's just gonna have to bite the bullet and stand on his own feet.
ps.stand by your man (or 1/2)
Thankyou.
I'm not Muslim but I thought it an appropriate message to Arab/Muslim males.
As a male of Greek stock I must admit that 'sexism' is something we are not entirely free of either; as Layla touched on.
As an Australian, I can say that our Anglo Saxon brothers have an 'issue' too. All the child sexual predators here, of prepubescent, seem to emanate from their camp.
Male humanism globally seems to be a problem.
on a lighter note...
As a father of daughters, I can say that I have been 'beaten' into submission.... I'm a feminist.
I pity the man that might abuse them when they marry; they've been trained by their mother.
A good beating from one of your Taleban brothers would set you straight.
NUR